When something bad happens in your life, what do you do?
A common reaction is to “numb out”…with alcohol, mindless tv, or some other unproductive thing.
Another approach is to aggressively try to “undo” the adversity. Along the lines of: we have this problem, now we have to fix it.
There is a 3rd option many people either forget about or consciously choose to avoid.
The 3rd option is to just “be with the adversity”:
- Admit it’s real (don’t deny it)
- Accept it (don’t run from it)
- See it for what it is…a chance to grow (don’t try to fix it)
Earlier in life I found myself often utilizing the 1st option – numbing out. Later in life, I saw that wasn’t the best approach. So I started using the “fix it” approach. The “fix it” approach can be effective at times.
However, I’ve now learned that the 3rd option is the most valuable.
To hunker down with the adversity & say: “Ok, it’s you & me, what now?”
This opens your heart & mind to possibilities. It makes you receptive to learning & growth.
The times when I’ve just been with my adversity – an amazing amount of goodness always comes out of it.
Those are the times when I’ve experienced the most growth in my life.
What do you think? Let’s hear your thoughts in the comment section.