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12 September

Are We Having Fun Yet?

Uncle Dale and Dad. May 1942, West Union, IA

“What I remember about those two was, they always had fun.”

The words hit me like an arrow. Rocked me to my core. Woke up something deep inside me.

Was I having fun?  Nope.

I’d put my nose to the grindstone so much I’d forgotten to even think about fun.

But now I was. Thinking about fun, that is. And realizing how totally absent it was from my life.

Yes, there were good things in my life. But I’d deluded myself into thinking that if I continued to work hard there would be time to enjoy life “someday”. Now I saw that “someday” would never come unless I made some changes.

It was my uncle Bob who spoke those words, as I visited him at his Indiana home. He was talking about 2 of his brothers. I knew them as my Dad and my uncle Dale.

My dad and all his brothers dealt with so much adversity. Yet, what uncle Bob remembered most was that regardless of what was going on in their lives, those brothers had fun.

It’s been over 20 years since my uncle said those words to me. I’m sure neither of us realized how much those words would shape my life. Because of those words I:

  • Quit fooling myself
  • Examined what was important to me
  • Realigned my priorities
  • Made  the tough choices I needed to make
  • Became “me” again

Certainly life can’t be fun 100% of the time. But life with little or no fun isn’t really living…

Are you having fun in your life?

If not, why not?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.