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25 October

Worst Time Can Be The Best – Huh?

“One day you will look back on this ‘worst time’ in your life as a fortuitous event. Even your worst times have value and can become, in retrospect, your best times.” ~ Andy Andrews, in The Noticer

Has this happened to you?

It happened to me.

Going through something gut-wrenching. Can’t wait for it to be over.

Then months or years later you look back on it & realize that even with the anguish, some great things happened too.

“The fairest thing in nature, a flower, still has it’s roots in earth and manure.”  ~D.L. Lawrence

For example, I was in college, majoring in Engineering, & received an “F” on an engineering exam. At that moment I thought of myself as a total failure in life. I felt completely lost.

That “F” helped me realize I’d enrolled in Engineering because I didn’t know what else to study. That “F” caused me to search for another major. My search uncovered both Computers & Teaching.  I had a long, rewarding career in the field of Computers. And, Teaching is something I truly love…and continue to enjoy even to this day.

I now look back on that “F” as a positive turning point in my life.

Another example…

My second job in the corporate world sounded like a dream job…

  • Project manager for a software company
  • 25% travel, some  of it international

Once I started the job it was nothing like I expected:

  • Travel was last minute & often changed multiple times
  • I was working 60-70 hours/week & was continually told to work more hours
  • After 9 months my travel schedule was upped to  100%

I didn’t want 100% travel & asked the company if they had another job for me.  They didn’t.

The new client had on-site project manager written into the contract. Suddenly my job wasn’t available unless I agreed to 100% travel.

I’ve always believed you don’t quit a job without having another lined up. But, I went counter to that & turned in my resignation letter.

I was flying without a net.

I now see this experience was another turning point in my life.  There were many benefits, I:

  • Learned to ask better questions, so I better understood what to expect from employers & others
  • Discovered a love for travel
  • Got my first passport
  • Reinforced the need to stand up for myself
  • Relocated to a larger city, where I made good friends
  • Learned to take a leap of faith

It was 14 years ago I left that company. Late last year I realized another leap of faith would be needed to move across country without a permanent job lined up.  That experience from 14 years ago gave me the strength & commitment to make my most recent leap of faith.

I’m so glad it did.

I’m now teaching 3 classes, my business is growing & I’ve met some wonderful people.

So, what do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic.