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Adversity Flip™

Turn Adversity Over to Find Something Good

29 April


He worked by day and toiled by night.

He gave up play and some delight

Dry books he read, new things to learn.

And forged ahead, success to earn.

He plodded on with faith and pluck.

And when he won, others called it luck.    

~ Author Unknown


Life is hard. It takes sacrifices. It’s full of adversity.

When someone has a lot of adversity in a short period of time, people often say they are having bad luck. I don’t believe in luck – good or bad. At least one other person agrees with me…

“Luck? I don’t know anything about luck. I’ve never banked on it and I’m afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: Hard work – and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.” 

~ Lucille Ball

Adversity is a test. And there is always, always a lesson within it. Sometimes the lesson is easy to spot & other times it is very tough to find.

Yes, life can be wonderful. And we’re all glad to for that. But the reality is that life is hard work & there are & will be difficulties.

But all too often advertisements, tv & movies portray life as one non-stop joy-ride.

Ironically, it’s much easier to be happy when you realize life isn’t 100% fun. If you picture life as 100% fun, you’re going to be disappointed – repeatedly.

I’m not suggesting you become a cynic as a way to be happy. Rather, having a realistic view of life: accepting that there will be highs & lows, adversity & good times, will make your life more enjoyable than being at either extreme.

Let’s hear your thoughts…




16 January

One of THOSE Weeks…

We’ve all had them.  You know what I’m talking about – one of those weeks where it seems like one thing goes wrong after another.   At some point you may even think or say: “Ok, whatever the next problem is – Bring it on, I’m ready.”

I had one of those weeks in late September of last year.  I was very excited at the time, actually, because in a little less than a week I would be heading to southern France for a Barbara Sher retreat (more here).  If you ever get the chance to hear Barbara speak, by all means go – France or otherwise.  She is an amazing lady, with lots of wisdom and energy.  And as far as southern France goes, well, I’m already thinking about when I’ll return…

Bike trail along the Canal du Midi in Toulouse, France

Well, this particular day in September I found 2 charges on my credit card statement that I never made.  They totaled roughly $150 – one from Denmark, the other Canada.  I called my credit card company, they removed the charges, and wanted me to close my account and reissue me a new card.   I told them I couldn’t be without my credit card since I was leaving the country soon.  They assured me that they would overnight the card to me.

The next day I got in the car to head to work, turned the key and nothing but: click, click, click.   I called a tow truck.  My mechanic was able to verify it was a dead battery.

As you can imagine, in both cases my initial reaction was being really ticked off.   In each case the initial  “you gotta be kidding me” feeling disappeared fairly quickly.  Shortly thereafter I also realized how each of these situations was a blessing.  Yes, a blessing.  First, the credit card.  What if I hadn’t noticed bad charges until I was already in France?  Or what if I hadn’t even spotted the bad charges at all?  With the car battery…what if this would have happened when I was ready to drive to the airport?  Can you imagine, load all the luggage, turn the key…and CLICK!   That would have been bad.  Or it could have happened somewhere late at night or during a thunderstorm or blizzard.

Even though someone hacked my credit card and my car broke down, things could have been a lot worse.  Like so many things in life, it’s a matter of perspective.  The sooner each of us take the time to see the other possible ways things could have played out …the sooner we all realize how little we really have to complain about.

Have you had “one of those weeks” and it really wasn’t as bad as you first thought?  Please feel free to share with us in the comments.